RELATIONAL LITERACY

Hi JOBBERS! Welcome to the series of Relational literacy by Comrade Chidubem Muoghalu. In these episodes, he would be taking us on a literal escortion on relationship. I believe all have been said and done, nothing particularly sounds new anymore, but one of the major concept of councillorship isn’t really about hearing what you haven’t heard before but getting an assurance on what you already know, some kind of assured approval, knowing you don’t stand alone on this. Most times we know quite the things to do, but because it may feel odd for us to be the first doing it, or maybe we are trying to avoid unprecedented reactions that may come about it, we tend to leave the next person lead the example instead. Anyway check this out.

P.S, this is not instructional, it’s just an exposure. Please pardon the arrangements of lines and paragraphs. Read below…

We may wonder what Relational Literacy is all about. Well, it has to do with a firm understanding of human interactions, thus being able to communicate or mingle without violation of esteem The aim is to have an unfiltered understanding of the ‘Golden rule’.

For utter understanding, I would be dispatching this in episodes since life and communication is an unending process until death.

Just a quick one, Today I would be discussing "Impacts Of Empathy" .

I'll do my best to make this as short and simple as possible. The reason
is because information overload is the reason for information loss, and
information loss is the reason for a certain level of societal imbalance.

It is not enough to be in a relationship, it is a happier feat to be in the
one that does not depress you. Now call it whatever you like,
friendship, romance, parenting, bla! bla! bla! bla! bla!. A relationship
houses every human interaction no matter the type classified. It is one
of the most beautiful expressions one may ever experience. The warmth of it
makes life alive and peaceful, that's how powerful it is.

A lot of relationships are successful while so many others end in brutal
fronts. Some people try to avoid relationships especially when it comes to romance, either way, you must
learn how to manage a relationship otherwise, you abuse it.

Relationships begin to die when either parties begin to take each other for granted. In every relationship, irrespective of how minor it may
seem, either party must learn to respect the principles of the other. You
can throw a stone on me and I enjoy it but it doesn't mean you'll enjoy
it when I do likewise.

When principles are neglected, hurts are incurred. When hurts are
incurred, hate is born. The trend of the time features a band of haters
but we’d really recreate some of it at least the ones we can. Am going to use a ‘you and me’ formation.

If I neglect your
instinctive beliefs, I've done nothing less more but violated your ego,
that's a primal murder of your self esteem. Your psyche at the moment
begins to transform negatively toward me and with time it
automatically blanks me out, most times without repair.

Every relationship will thrive when either party hears beyond the words
of each other. Corrections are excellent but it should be done with
empathy not with ego violation. Misunderstandings will surely arise and
very often in most cases but it takes one with a basic knowledge of
“Relational literacy" to handle such misunderstandings without hurting
another, being very aware that relationships are more for impact than
they are for impression. Opinions may vary and not always have a
meeting point but ideological differences when balanced is a healthy
catalyst for relationship enhancement.

 

Empathy enables you gain a balanced understanding about another's dilemma. It is when you empathize that you are more constructive in your judgement instead of being destructive. This trait can be learned, it comes to some naturally but believe me, it can be learned and when you do learn it, your happiness is whole! You'll see then that expressing this trait always makes more better relationships.

The concept of relational literacy may not be captured at a glance. Follow up on the next episode as I shall be discussing ‘Sacrifices and Favours’.

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Muoghalu Chidubem is graduate of History and International Relations, Ebonyi State University. He is dedicated to improving lives for the better rising to status flux. He is a devoted Christian, consultant, councilor and an established entrepreneur.