Age and Relationships

This article concentrates on the relevance of age in marriage/relationships. A lot of people’s first consideration when they meet their spouse and thinking of spending the rest of their lives together
is their age difference, *'a lot' not 'all'.

While so many people hold that a man must be a lot older than the woman, other people believe that there could be more connection and familiarity when the ages are at close range, and some other people insist that age is just a number.

Well, the inspiration behind this article is based on the wonder about how these categories of people come up with their thoughts, believes and conviction.

For the school of thought that insist the guys should be lot older than the female counterpart in a relationship often give their reasons as follows; firstly, ladies need advanced men to be able to take good care of them, capable of paying their bills, put up with their class, accommodate and tolerate their flaws. They state that when a lady is in a relationship with a more mature and aged guy than herself, she tends to have more respect than she would possibly have if the guy was younger (would this kind of respect not be 'fear' inspired?). But then again, does age ripen maturity? Do you necessarily require fear to show respect? Also, a lady needs to date an older guy because it is assumed that the older the guy, the more sexual experience he has got. Obviously this might sound shallow but at the same time you would equally be surprised at the countless number of women who embrace this believe. Then there’s another question; from whom do the guys gain these experiences since they can’t date older ladies? Or does it come naturally?

Another school of thought believe that a relationship would be more successful when the age difference ranges from three years(minimum) to seven years(maximum) with the guy being older. This school of thought suggest that the guy should definitely be older but to a certain limit, if not for any reason, for the fact that women age faster than men. Even this fact to some extent is still questionable. Further, this school warns that if the age of these two fall out of bracket, the couple are likely to have very little in common, leading to a rigid relationship. But if vice-versa, since they may have encountered relatively the same trends growing up, they would have so much in common, they can play together, they can easily be united with cooperate understanding.

The third and last school of thought are age insensitive. They totally believe love, affection and companionship have no ties with age.

 

Well, since the most entertaining part of intellectual discourse is raising questions, I’d like to ask, for those who believe in Bible stories, have you ever wondered how long Adam stayed before Eve was created? Do you think it was a matter of seconds, minutes, hours, days, months, years? The age difference wasn’t really specified in the Bible. A pastor said, based on assumption, that he thinks it was a matter of days.

Thing is, if we conclude that a man must be way older than a woman in any given relationship, or that the man should be slightly older, or the woman even older, what would really be our base of argument to convince someone that totally think otherwise and has a different way of life than ours. Or is this just us, trying to create our own path and make decisions that best suit them? Is this not more likely to be the case?

Using the Adam and Eve thesis, which school of thought from the above mentioned do you think is more likely to be naturally upheld?

 P.S; Every single opinion held in this article, no matter the perspective, is only suggestive  and not in anyway  instructive.

Read and don’t hesitate to share your opinion.

  

Jerry Odii.

Jerry_odii@yahoo.com